HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 I'm just curious if this is normal or common around the country. Does anyone on this board have a parent that you just cant stand. A parent that you never wanna speak too or see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedZone Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 6 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: I'm just curious if this is normal or common around the country. Does anyone on this board have a parent that you just cant stand. A parent that you never wanna speak too or see. Seek help quickly............. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 7 minutes ago, RedZone said: Seek help quickly............. Why they are never gonna change. They will continue to be hated. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LiberalDonaldTrump Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 23 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: I'm just curious if this is normal or common around the country. Does anyone on this board have a parent that you just cant stand. A parent that you never wanna speak too or see. I look at this way ... if you hate your parents and they die and the last memory you got is hatred towards them ul probably never forget that feeling. So I’d suck it up and make peace with them 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 1 minute ago, LiberalDonaldTrump said: I look at this way ... if you hate your parents and they die and the last memory you got is hatred towards them ul probably never forget that feeling. So I’d suck it up and make peace with them Idk.....some part of me would be very happy. There is absolutely no peace btw me and this one parent I unfortunately have. We are too different. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rufus69 Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 20 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: Idk.....some part of me would be very happy. There is absolutely no peace btw me and this one parent I unfortunately have. We are too different. Hoss....I'm not saying this nastily. But look in the mirror...take a couple of long deep breaths...and learn to be tolerant of those who don't believe as you. Unless it's Trumpy The Clown....then HATE HIS ASS with all you got. Rufus>> 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Horsefly Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 20 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: Idk.....some part of me would be very happy. There is absolutely no peace btw me and this one parent I unfortunately have. We are too different. Did this one parent physically or emotionally abuse you or is your hate based on only that they are different from you and you two don't see eye-to-eye? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 5 minutes ago, Horsefly said: Did this one parent physically or emotionally abuse you or is your hate based on only that they are different from you and you two don't see eye-to-eye? I would say over the years have fucked with me emotional and mentally. Their misery makes me miserable. Always miserable. Always annoyed about something. Biggest pain in the ass ever. Not worth ever fixing the son parent relationship Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 8 minutes ago, Rufus69 said: Hoss....I'm not saying this nastily. But look in the mirror...take a couple of long deep breaths...and learn to be tolerant of those who don't believe as you. Unless it's Trumpy The Clown....then HATE HIS ASS with all you got. Rufus>> I love Trump. Easily the best president we ever had in my lifetime. It's a lot easier to never associate with anyone that doeant see eye to eye. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Horsefly Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 6 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: I would say over the years have fucked with me emotional and mentally. Their misery makes me miserable. Always miserable. Always annoyed about something. Biggest pain in the ass ever. Not worth ever fixing the son parent relationship Well, to answer your original question, I don think it's normal or common for an adult child to hate/despise a parent. Maybe distance (move to another town or state) between the two of you may create some level of peace and be a bridge towards reconciliation. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 Just now, Horsefly said: Well, to answer your original question, I don think it's normal or common for an adult child to hate/despise a parent. I had a feeling that was the answer but that's how I feel. There isnt one quality I particularly like about this parent of mine. And the less we talk or see each other the better it is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Horsefly Posted August 4, 2018 Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 2 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: I had a feeling that was the answer but that's how I feel. There isnt one quality I particularly like about this parent of mine. And the less we talk or see each other the better it is. how do they feel about you, have they expressed it? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 4, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 4, 2018 26 minutes ago, Horsefly said: how do they feel about you, have they expressed it? I'm sure I'm a big disappointment. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rockinl Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 Not my parents, but my wifes parents wishes me dead, and vice-versa. They are just very hateful, crooked, domineering people. I couldnt care less, but it makes it hard on my wife. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 10 minutes ago, GardenStateBaller said: It can't be that bad from their end as he/she is still permitting you to reside in their home. Well because they are my parents and they wont put me on the streets but I made it very clear that could be a possibility if I never find anything that I am good at or interested in. I am giving this paralegal route a shot because I am interested but time will tell if I'm any good Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 2 minutes ago, GardenStateBaller said: If you work long aand hard at it, you'll be good. If you don't, you won't. It's like anything else in life. You get out what you put in. True. But it has to satisfy me. If it doesnt than it's not gonna work. But I'm trying to be very positive about it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 I guess I am the only one who can picture putting a bullet in their head. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarterBlue Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 4 minutes ago, HSFBfan said: I guess I am the only one who can picture putting a bullet in their head. In your parent's head or yours? Look man, if you are suicidal, seek help. In Florida you would be Baker acted. I don't know what the set up is where you are, but there's got to be something. On the other hand, if you are homicidal, you need to leave home and go on your own. You are an adult man, and are living at home on the grace (if not love) of your parents. You have no reason to have homicidal wishes on those that provide you shelter free or charge or highly subsidized. It seems to me that you are selfish, egotistical and very immature. Could it be that you are a constant source of frustration in the life of the parent you refer to? As you know, I have tried to help you in private discussions. However, you are going over the top with this post. Perhaps you are someone that either can't be helped or who does not want help. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DevilDog Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 2 hours ago, GardenStateBaller said: It can't be that bad from their end as he/she is still permitting you to reside in their home. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DevilDog Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 24 minutes ago, DarterBlue said: In your parent's head or yours? Look man, if you are suicidal, seek help. In Florida you would be Baker acted. I don't know what the set up is where you are, but there's got to be something. On the other hand, if you are homicidal, you need to leave home and go on your own. You are an adult man, and are living at home on the grace (if not love) of your parents. You have no reason to have homicidal wishes on those that provide you shelter free or charge or highly subsidized. It seems to me that you are selfish, egotistical and very immature. Could it be that you are a constant source of frustration in the life of the parent you refer to? As you know, I have tried to help you in private discussions. However, you are going over the top with this post. Perhaps you are someone that either can't be helped or who does not want help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RedZone Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 25 minutes ago, DarterBlue said: In your parent's head or yours? Look man, if you are suicidal, seek help. In Florida you would be Baker acted. I don't know what the set up is where you are, but there's got to be something. On the other hand, if you are homicidal, you need to leave home and go on your own. You are an adult man, and are living at home on the grace (if not love) of your parents. You have no reason to have homicidal wishes on those that provide you shelter free or charge or highly subsidized. It seems to me that you are selfish, egotistical and very immature. Could it be that you are a constant source of frustration in the life of the parent you refer to? As you know, I have tried to help you in private discussions. However, you are going over the top with this post. Perhaps you are someone that either can't be helped or who does not want help. Think I'll report this guy to the FBI and have him checked out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
On2whls Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 5 hours ago, HSFBfan said: I had a feeling that was the answer but that's how I feel. There isnt one quality I particularly like about this parent of mine. And the less we talk or see each other the better it is. I had the prototypical asshole stepfather. He beat on us, demeaned us, never had anything good to say. He drank and was a mean drunk at times. But, he did marry my mom who had 5 kids, then had two of his own, and with a shit income managed to keep a roof over our heads and for that I was thankful. I found a way to channel my anger to a resolve that as soon as I could, I moved out and never looked back. It was a lot different visiting, than living with him. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 14 minutes ago, On2whls said: I had the prototypical asshole stepfather. He beat on us, demeaned us, never had anything good to say. He drank and was a mean drunk at times. But, he did marry my mom who had 5 kids, then had two of his own, and with a shit income managed to keep a roof over our heads and for that I was thankful. I found a way to channel my anger to a resolve that as soon as I could, I moved out and never looked back. It was a lot different visiting, than living with him. My whole goal is too move out and never look back ever. I'll let one of my parents visit me but I have told the other many many times you are not invited ever. Do not ever come see me. I have absolutely no interest in seeing that person. Yea does it suck saying what I'm saying of course it does I'm human but I cant be around this person. I can't speak to them. And it's been this way for years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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On2whls Posted August 5, 2018 Report Share Posted August 5, 2018 1 minute ago, HSFBfan said: My whole goal is too move out and never look back ever. I'll let one of my parents visit me but I have told the other many many times you are not invited ever. Do not ever come see me. I have absolutely no interest in seeing that person. Yea does it suck saying what I'm saying of course it does I'm human but I cant be around this person. I can't speak to them. And it's been this way for years. My older brother was gay. When my parents found out, he was basically excommunicated by my parents and kicked out the house. About 15 years of non- communication later, we found out he had fairly advanced aids. My parents ended up flying out to San Diego, basically dragged him back to MA and provided the hospice for his last six months. It was life changing for my stepfather and he quit his job to be a hospice provider until he could no longer work. You never know what the future holds, so don’t ever totally write someone off, or allow yourself to be written off. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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