ChimpGrip Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 I don’t know how I’ll ever get over this, I thought I was strong. This hurts, like nothing I’ve ever felt. Wish I was emotionally strong like I am physically. Very painful... don’t want to do anything besides confide to my best friend and be alone. How do you guys get over this? How do you handle it when there are so many reminders of this person in your every day life? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HSFBfan Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 10 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said: I don’t know how I’ll ever get over this, I thought I was strong. This hurts, like nothing I’ve ever felt. Wish I was emotionally strong like I am physically. Very painful... don’t want to do anything besides confide to my best friend and be alone. How do you guys get over this? How do you handle it when there are so many reminders of this person in your every day life? Drinking lots and lots of alcohol 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norcalnut Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 8 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said: I don’t know how I’ll ever get over this, I thought I was strong. This hurts, like nothing I’ve ever felt. Wish I was emotionally strong like I am physically. Very painful... don’t want to do anything besides confide to my best friend and be alone. How do you guys get over this? How do you handle it when there are so many reminders of this person in your every day life? I smoke a fat one, grab a bag of chips then contemplate my next move. One day at a time, just one day at a time. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troll Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 12 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said: How do you guys get over this? You have to answer the question of whether it was her or you, that has problems with the relationship that can't be worked out. Possibly the reasoning behind that opinion as well. Then you have your path. you can stop walking if you like... but that never seemed to help much for me... 🤷♂️ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, Troll said: You have to answer the question of whether it was her or you, that has problems with the relationship that can't be worked out. Possibly the reasoning behind that opinion as well. Then you have your path. you can stop walking if you like... but that never seemed to help much for me... 🤷♂️ The first sign of you being a human and not a robot. I'm oddly proud. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troll Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, ngdawg said: The first sign of you being a human and not a robot. I'm oddly proud. Well I've seen you 'broken clock' a few posts as well.... so it's not unheard of 🤣 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 1 minute ago, Troll said: Well I've seen you 'broken clock' a few posts as well.... so it's not unheard of 🤣 This coming from you of all people. Anyways, let's this thread not get populated with your nonsense. Take the compliment I gave and let's move on. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChimpGrip Posted August 10, 2020 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 In a bad place, not looking for humor. At all. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChimpGrip Posted August 10, 2020 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 I DONT KNOW what to do!!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troll Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 Just now, ChimpGrip said: In a bad place, not looking for humor. At all. Only bad place is lack of direction.... sort thru it.... the best feeling is the first step in your direction just sayin' 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 1 minute ago, ChimpGrip said: In a bad place, not looking for humor. At all. Sorry man. I don't know you at all, but you seem like a very good person. And sometimes, bad things happen to the best of people. But know that it's only temporary. If you need to talk it out, feel free to send me a private message and I'll be more than happy to help console in any way possible. We all may not know each other here on this forum, but we're all here to help. At least, I know I am. I may not be the best source for help, but I can provide any help that I know of. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troll Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 8 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said: I DONT KNOW what to do!!! Work on what YOU have control over... and you can't control others. you can only understand others (not change them) to see if that other is the BEST for you. PS: you could also ask yourself if you are upset for how things actually are...or upset for how you wanted things to be. Sometimes that helps ...building things with someone who wants to work with you is usually best. There are MANY out there who would jump at the chance... 🤷♂️ 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChimpGrip Posted August 10, 2020 Author Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 4 minutes ago, ngdawg said: Sorry man. I don't know you at all, but you seem like a very good person. And sometimes, bad things happen to the best of people. But know that it's only temporary. If you need to talk it out, feel free to send me a private message and I'll be more than happy to help console in any way possible. We all may not know each other here on this forum, but we're all here to help. At least, I know I am. I may not be the best source for help, but I can provide any help that I know of. Thank you. Will be reaching out to you, having a hard time keeping my composure. Reflecting on all our great past memories these last 6 mos.. im hurt Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 Just now, ChimpGrip said: Thank you. Will be reaching out to you, having a hard time keeping my composure. Reflecting on all our great past memories these last 6 mos.. im hurt It's alright man. I see a lot of these cases, especially being in high school during a time when many couples are being separated. It's happened to some of my best friends and some of my worst enemies. But I'd be there for anyone who needs the help, regardless of gender, age, etc. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I AM IRONMAN Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 Time heals all wounds....6 mos....you will get over her faster then you think Hang in there! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarterBlue Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 2 hours ago, ChimpGrip said: I don’t know how I’ll ever get over this, I thought I was strong. This hurts, like nothing I’ve ever felt. Wish I was emotionally strong like I am physically. Very painful... don’t want to do anything besides confide to my best friend and be alone. How do you guys get over this? How do you handle it when there are so many reminders of this person in your every day life? What circumstances led to the breakup? You don't need to go into intimate details, just a general description. Is there a chance the relationship can be repaired? Since you seem to be experiencing a great deal of hurt, I assume she was the one that broke up with you. To what extent do you think your actions were to blame? If you think they were, there is nothing wrong or shameful in saying you are sorry, if, indeed, you should be. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I AM IRONMAN Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 3 minutes ago, DarterBlue said: What circumstances led to the breakup? You don't need to go into intimate details, just a general description. Is there a chance the relationship can be repaired? Since you seem to be experiencing a great deal of hurt, I assume she was the one that broke up with you. To what extent do you think your actions were to blame? If you think they were, there is nothing wrong or shameful in saying you are sorry, if, indeed, you should be. And flowers help...lots of flowers! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 I'm taking notes for the future. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DarterBlue Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 28 minutes ago, I AM IRONMAN said: And flowers help...lots of flowers! 27 minutes ago, ngdawg said: I'm taking notes for the future. Relationships are complex. It helps if you actually care deeply for the other person and were not just attracted to them by looks, the fact they were seen as cool, athleticism, or a host of other more superficial things that will wane with time anyway. I am proud to say that my marriage has now lasted over 38 years. I would be a liar if I said everything was always wine and roses all the time. But we are still together, I don't plan on going anywhere, and I hope she does not either. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ga96 Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 If you feeling that bad you need to get some therapeutic help. Old saying says the best way to get over someone is to get with someone else but that can be a toxic situation as well. Definitely need to get rid of everything that reminds you of her Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I AM IRONMAN Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 Chimp...give us details so we can try to help Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BUFORDGAWOLVES Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 Chimp, it’s okay to hurt. Keep moving, rearrange your crib, work out...definitely work out... change gyms if you have to. Stay eating healthy, don’t obsess too much, or reflect back too much... give it some time. We’re here bro, even the shitheads give a shit and I’m the biggest shithead. bgw 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BUFORDGAWOLVES Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 It’s a process, you may have feelings months down the line and run across that person, expect it to happen... pretty powerful feelings. bgw Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 20 minutes ago, BUFORDGAWOLVES said: Chimp, it’s okay to hurt. Keep moving, rearrange your crib, work out...definitely work out... change gyms if you have to. Stay eating healthy, don’t obsess too much, or reflect back too much... give it some time. We’re here bro, even the shitheads give a shit and I’m the biggest shithead. bgw The Buford part of you has finally come out. Go Dawgs! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ngdawg Posted August 10, 2020 Report Share Posted August 10, 2020 We're all here to help you Chimp! We may not know each other, but we can still support each other. Never alone, man! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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