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As do most individuals, I much prefer meeting a potential partner in person rather than some kind of electronic platform. 

I’m going to keep this short. A new friend of mine added me on Facebook (an app I use only for networking since it is a time waster) back in March. He is from South Africa. Eventually I added a “recommended”/“suggested” friend (who is a mutual friend between him and I) who is also from South Africa. 

I find her to be quite attractive. And she speaks Afrikaans! Some problems I found at though initial thought...

1. Very long distance (Pretoria, South Africa)

2. I don’t know her 

I have never tried to create a relationship through Facebook for many reasons.

Should I not do it since it may be super weird? Or is it worth a giving it a shot? 

I’m leaning towards not doing it, but I always ask myself “what if” (what if it was meant to be? - more day dream-like than reality, but still) and that leads me to here to get some opinions. 

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1 minute ago, ChimpGrip said:

As do most individuals, I much prefer meeting a potential partner in person rather than some kind of electronic platform. 

I’m going to keep this short. A new friend of mine added me on Facebook (an app I use only for networking since it is a time waster) back in March. He is from South Africa. Eventually I added a “recommended”/“suggested” friend (who is a mutual friend between him and I) who is also from South Africa. 

I find her to be quite attractive. And she speaks Afrikaans! Some problems I found at though initial thought...

1. Very long distance (Pretoria, South Africa)

2. I don’t know her 

I have never tried to create a relationship through Facebook for many reasons.

Should I not do it since it may be super weird? Or is it worth a giving it a shot? 

I’m leaning towards not doing it, but I always ask myself “what if” (what if it was meant to be? - more day dream-like than reality, but still) and that leads me to here to get some opinions. 

HELL NO!!!!! COMPLETE WASTE OF TIME 

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7 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said:

Not just a waste of time, but a WASTE OF TIME! I bet her feet ain’t all that anyway

There's nothing wrong with the relationship, it doesn't have to be exclusive.  But, knowing people is always a good thing, you never know how it could blossom or develop into a great friendship. 

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Just now, Horsefly said:

There's nothing wrong with the relationship, it doesn't have to be exclusive.  But, knowing people is always a good thing, you never know how it could blossom or develop into a great friendship. 

Very true. If I were to do it, I have no idea what to say at first. And that is probably from not knowing her. It’s that “what if” knocking at the door. 

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32 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said:

Very true. If I were to do it, I have no idea what to say at first. And that is probably from not knowing her. It’s that “what if” knocking at the door. 

Ask questions about her, what does she do for a living, school, entertainment.  Has she been to the states, if so where, what about other countries?  Ask about her family, etc.

then based on her answers you can give info on your, your thoughts or ask followup questions. 

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20 hours ago, ChimpGrip said:

As do most individuals, I much prefer meeting a potential partner in person rather than some kind of electronic platform. 

I’m going to keep this short. A new friend of mine added me on Facebook (an app I use only for networking since it is a time waster) back in March. He is from South Africa. Eventually I added a “recommended”/“suggested” friend (who is a mutual friend between him and I) who is also from South Africa. 

I find her to be quite attractive. And she speaks Afrikaans! Some problems I found at though initial thought...

1. Very long distance (Pretoria, South Africa)

2. I don’t know her 

I have never tried to create a relationship through Facebook for many reasons.

Should I not do it since it may be super weird? Or is it worth a giving it a shot? 

I’m leaning towards not doing it, but I always ask myself “what if” (what if it was meant to be? - more day dream-like than reality, but still) and that leads me to here to get some opinions. 

Do it. At least you don’t have to worry about pop ins.

 I would gauge level of interest and have fun with it. 

Regards

BGW

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7 hours ago, Horsefly said:

Ask questions about her, what does she do for a living, school, entertainment.  Has she been to the states, if so where, what about other countries?  Ask about her family, etc.

then based on her answers you can give info on your, your thoughts or ask followup questions. 

Good ideas here. I just have to muster up the guts. At first it wasn’t a problem, but the more I think about something, the more the butterflies interfere with my inter-workings. 

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20 minutes ago, BUFORDGAWOLVES said:

Do it. At least you don’t have to worry about pop ins.

 I would gauge level of interest and have fun with it. 

Regards

BGW

I’ll give it a shot and bring the results back to this thread. Lol. I’m nervous as heck as I type this. As I think about doing it. I’d hate for her to remove me for trying this.

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1 minute ago, ChimpGrip said:

I’ll give it a shot and bring the results back to this thread. Lol. I’m nervous as heck as I type this. As I think about doing it. I’d hate for her to remove me for trying this.

I dated a Brit and Panamanian while in college, the cool thing is the culture differences which is refreshing as opposed to American women. Not picking one over the other but I appreciated the differences. 

The Brit and I fell for each other pretty hard... that was a sweet experience. 

Regards

 BGW

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11 minutes ago, BUFORDGAWOLVES said:

I dated a Brit and Panamanian while in college, the cool thing is the culture differences which is refreshing as opposed to American women. Not picking one over the other but I appreciated the differences. 

The Brit and I fell for each other pretty hard... that was a sweet experience. 

Regards

 BGW

Very cool. Many American girls are just... I don’t know, but not what I see in some of these foreign women. Did you ever go to Great Britain? I’ve been on the hunt for a German woman, so we could talk to each other in German. 

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21 minutes ago, ChimpGrip said:

Very cool. Many American girls are just... I don’t know, but not what I see in some of these foreign women. Did you ever go to Great Britain? I’ve been on the hunt for a German woman, so we could talk to each other in German. 

She begged me to go... but I couldn’t make time with workouts and summer job commitments. 

BGW

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1 hour ago, ChimpGrip said:

Good ideas here. I just have to muster up the guts. At first it wasn’t a problem, but the more I think about something, the more the butterflies interfere with my inter-workings. 

No problem with butterflies it happens to the best of us. Good luck! 

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I can't disagree with anyone here, but I'd say try not to get too involved before actually meeting her. That's hard advice to follow, I know, but that's all the advice I have to offer.

When I first got onto social media in my mid 20s, I was contacted by a girl I went to high school with but who now lived about 400 miles away from me. We started chatting, and to my surprise, I started developing feelings for her. We were exchanging long messages and talking on the phone all night like schoolchildren. It was weird. Then after a few weeks, she came down to see me, and I quickly realized that I wasn't as into her as I had thought. There's something about chemistry. I don't know what chemistry is, really, but I know it's a real thing. And you have to be in the same room with a person to determine whether you have any of it.

And I wish I could say that I learned my lesson the first time, but I did basically the same thing a few years after that.

In each case, it was messy and there was a lot of disappointment and weirdness and heartbreak. 

So, I'd say, if at all possible, don't get too involved before spending some old-fashioned face-to-face time with the person.

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On 7/15/2018 at 7:59 PM, ChimpGrip said:

As do most individuals, I much prefer meeting a potential partner in person rather than some kind of electronic platform. 

I’m going to keep this short. A new friend of mine added me on Facebook (an app I use only for networking since it is a time waster) back in March. He is from South Africa. Eventually I added a “recommended”/“suggested” friend (who is a mutual friend between him and I) who is also from South Africa. 

I find her to be quite attractive. And she speaks Afrikaans! Some problems I found at though initial thought...

1. Very long distance (Pretoria, South Africa)

2. I don’t know her 

I have never tried to create a relationship through Facebook for many reasons.

Should I not do it since it may be super weird? Or is it worth a giving it a shot? 

I’m leaning towards not doing it, but I always ask myself “what if” (what if it was meant to be? - more day dream-like than reality, but still) and that leads me to here to get some opinions. 

I use to use FB for bae's and it worked VERY well.  Of course bae was not in another country.  Heck not even another county.  But if I were you, I would persue it from a distance without putting any feelings into it.  IMO

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16 hours ago, ChimpGrip said:

Good ideas here. I just have to muster up the guts. At first it wasn’t a problem, but the more I think about something, the more the butterflies interfere with my inter-workings. 

Its online brother.  No need to be nervous.  Never know till you try.  Every dude gets rejected.  Even total mack daddys such as myself. Lol.  My thinking is if 1 out 10 say yes, then I'm good to go. 

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16 hours ago, BUFORDGAWOLVES said:

I dated a Brit and Panamanian while in college, the cool thing is the culture differences which is refreshing as opposed to American women. Not picking one over the other but I appreciated the differences. 

The Brit and I fell for each other pretty hard... that was a sweet experience. 

Regards

 BGW

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15 hours ago, Belly Bob said:

I can't disagree with anyone here, but I'd say try not to get too involved before actually meeting her. That's hard advice to follow, I know, but that's all the advice I have to offer.

When I first got onto social media in my mid 20s, I was contacted by a girl I went to high school with but who now lived about 400 miles away from me. We started chatting, and to my surprise, I started developing feelings for her. We were exchanging long messages and talking on the phone all night like schoolchildren. It was weird. Then after a few weeks, she came down to see me, and I quickly realized that I wasn't as into her as I had thought. There's something about chemistry. I don't know what chemistry is, really, but I know it's a real thing. And you have to be in the same room with a person to determine whether you have any of it.

And I wish I could say that I learned my lesson the first time, but I did basically the same thing a few years after that.

In each case, it was messy and there was a lot of disappointment and weirdness and heartbreak. 

So, I'd say, if at all possible, don't get too involved before spending some old-fashioned face-to-face time with the person.

Did y'all play the, "you hang up", No you hang up" game?  Or the I'll call you back in 7 minutes or I'll call you at 10:18 game?  Lol.  Good times. 

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I bypassed all the comments so if I say something someone else said I apologize. 

First put the Asian Feet Porn down and google flights to Tokyo. 

Empty your bank account on airfare, hotels and an extra return flight home. 

Dont leave Tokyo until you got 10 girls to jerk you off with their feet at the same time. 

Walk around with a sign on your chest that says "hottest Jap gets the 2nd ticket!" 

Come home and marry her 

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50 minutes ago, AztecPadre said:

Its online brother.  No need to be nervous.  Never know till you try.  Every dude gets rejected.  Even total mack daddys such as myself. Lol.  My thinking is if 1 out 10 say yes, then I'm good to go. 

I see you are a disciple of the Mike Damone 5 point plan 😀

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16 hours ago, Belly Bob said:

I can't disagree with anyone here, but I'd say try not to get too involved before actually meeting her. That's hard advice to follow, I know, but that's all the advice I have to offer.

When I first got onto social media in my mid 20s, I was contacted by a girl I went to high school with but who now lived about 400 miles away from me. We started chatting, and to my surprise, I started developing feelings for her. We were exchanging long messages and talking on the phone all night like schoolchildren. It was weird. Then after a few weeks, she came down to see me, and I quickly realized that I wasn't as into her as I had thought. There's something about chemistry. I don't know what chemistry is, really, but I know it's a real thing. And you have to be in the same room with a person to determine whether you have any of it.

And I wish I could say that I learned my lesson the first time, but I did basically the same thing a few years after that.

In each case, it was messy and there was a lot of disappointment and weirdness and heartbreak. 

So, I'd say, if at all possible, don't get too involved before spending some old-fashioned face-to-face time with the person.

This is so true. I guess it’d be a fun risk to take if it ever reaches that point (although it would suck for whoever travelled).

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1 hour ago, AztecPadre said:

Its online brother.  No need to be nervous.  Never know till you try.  Every dude gets rejected.  Even total mack daddys such as myself. Lol.  My thinking is if 1 out 10 say yes, then I'm good to go. 

Yeah that’s true. I just don’t want yet another person to dislike me.

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1 hour ago, Nolebull813 said:

I bypassed all the comments so if I say something someone else said I apologize. 

First put the Asian Feet Porn down and google flights to Tokyo. 

Empty your bank account on airfare, hotels and an extra return flight home. 

Dont leave Tokyo until you got 10 girls to jerk you off with their feet at the same time. 

Walk around with a sign on your chest that says "hottest Jap gets the 2nd ticket!" 

Come home and marry her 

Dang. How did you know all of this about me? Lol

That does sound amazing though. Then get trampled on afterwards. For the Asians, Filipino and Japanese have it the best. 

If a friend of mine takes a job in Japan, i could be heading there next year for a vacation. 

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